This is when these men have an acute sexual preference for East Asian women mainly due to a series of false stereotypes: Popular culture has always portrayed Asian women in the most stereotypical ways. It is also not difficult to get numerous search results of dating websites specifically catered for men who are looking for Asian women. These women have always been seen as the wife material for their supposedly passive and docile nature. Does conquering a mountain feet above sea level seem weak to you? Before saying any of that, do people ever stop for a moment to think how many Asian countries and ethnicity there are? Is it appropriate to group all Asian women as the same category?
The Ignorance Surrounding Asian Women and Yellow Fever
April 2, Asian woman! Did your head turn? You might be a fetishist. You might have Yellow Fever. After all, some men are attracted to blondes, redheads or Swedes. And women have their preferences as well.
May 11, · It’s hard to watch Seeking Asian Female, Debbie Lum’s uncomfortably close look at the phenomenon some call “yellow fever” — when usually non-Asian men fetishize Asian women as romantic or sexual.
He blogs at MattForney. He is the author of Do the Philippines and many other books, available here. Yeah right, honey , her video itself is based on a lie. Yellow fever, as described by jealous white girls and Americanized Asian girls, does not exist. My first taste of it was in the Singapore airport. While I was trudging towards the transit hotel, I walked past several kiosks advertising skin lightening cream for women , for the explicit purpose of making them look more Caucasian.
While the effect is less pronounced in other Eastern countries, the message is clear: Keep in mind that these were all college-educated, middle-class girls I met via FilipinoCupid or day gaming in malls. This entire argument is based on the fallacious feminist view of wifely submission.
They are more attractive in a sense by being cuter like a baby. Why Asians Are Supposedly Cuter Scientific Breakdown Stereotypes of Asian women The stereotype is that Asian women are passive, delicate, quiet and that western men Caucasians are masculine and powerful. I’d say that on the surface some of those things could be said as true. Before you freak out I do not think all Asian women are quiet, shy or submissive.
There are certainly loud, obnoxious and controlling women in Asia too.
“When I see an Asian woman it’s just like, wow—she’s beautiful. It’s just like an angel was dropped right in front of me.” “There’s an exotic look and feel to an Asian woman, compared to a white woman or a Latin woman.”.
A lot of people found it entertaining as well as truthful, maybe seeing some of the aspects in their friends or observed it in some relationships. I obviously want to open up the dating field and create an equal playing field for Asian men , but NOT at the cost of having lower quality women in our lives. Just having more women interested in Asian men is NOT enough. These girls should be quality women: And whom will treat you as well as you treat her, as the Asian gentleman that you are.
Basically, desireable people get exploited for their looks, fame, power, and money. If you were not desired then people would not search you out in order to exploit you. But because Asian men ARE desirable , there will be women who will be going out of their way to search for and specifically exploit you. Thus, while this list is tongue-in-cheek, it also gives fair warning to my Asian brethren out there. So just because a woman just happens to like Asian men, that does not mean you need or should settle for her.
She needs to have better qualities and credentials than the fact that she has a yellow fever for Asian men.
American Finds Chinese Bride 0 Shares Email All her life Debbie Lum, a second-generation Chinese-American filmmaker, has been hounded by men with “yellow fever” — usually, but not always, white men with a fetish for Asian women. So she set out to expose the men who only see the stereotypical domestic, submissive and highly sexual creature, and not the person.
In her first feature-length film, “Seeking Asian Female,” which airs tonight at 10 p.
Aug 05, · (Hogogo via iStock) Stop fetishizing me: Why being an Asian woman in the dating world has never been harder As our culture continues to normalize the idea of “yellow fever.
It took me months to call him my boyfriend. When I walked with him hand in hand, I saw smug expressions from white dudes, dismissive sneers from Chinese men and judgmental looks from white and Chinese women alike. San Franciscans tend to be more informed when it comes to matters of race, yet even now I witness moments of appalling ignorance. Which explains, perhaps, why I constantly feel the need to clarify my views on the following questions: Do I date only white men?
Am I attracted to Asian men? Why are we so quick to believe that Asian men have small penises, I wonder? Does it occur to people that our racial dating preferences have been socially conditioned? Asian men are still exaggerating accents for comic relief The Hangover and still relegated to roles as kung fu masters a.
‘Seeking Asian Female’ Takes A Close Look At A Fetish : Code Switch : NPR
Sorry, something has gone wrong. The way I’ve always understood it, yellow fever is a term applied to ANYONE who wants to exclusively date Asian people either actually from Asia or people of Asian decent living elsewhere just because they’re Asian. Both men and women are capable of being so obsessed with finding partners with a particular trait that people are basically reduced to their traits, and anyone with the trait becomes a good potential dating partner while anyone without it isn’t even considered.
The Asian fetish. Asiaphilia. Yellow fever. You’ve probably heard of these terms before — maybe you can even think of that one Caucasian friend of yours that only ever dates Asian women.
The senders of these messages belong to a kind of subset of the ” Nice Guys of OkCupid ” – men who fail to notice that their flattery and pick-up lines also reveal some ugly stereotyping, in this case about Asia. Take this message from a self-described “distinguished and wealthy white man”, who comes packing with backhanded compliments: Could it be their fine skin and long silky hair? Could it be the fact that unlike white women, they remember what it’s like to be a woman: Could it be their delicate, playful personalities?
They are the villains in a fantasy that portrays Asian women as exotic and defenseless creatures as one man puts it “beautiful and should be cherished on a pedestal” , with an old-fashioned appreciation for the size of a man’s wallet, and best of all have just as much of a boner for white guys as these guys do for Asian women. It’s as if these men have swallowed the book on racial stereotypes and pooped out a one-size-fits-asian message. Unfortunately, for them, the target at hand strays too far from the trope of a “typical” Asian woman.
Nor seemingly do the thousands of tumblr users that have commented and reblogged these posts. Which begs the question, on who would such messages work?
Are Asian Men Undateable
I am speaking from just my own personal experience as a white male and, of course, these points do not refer to all Korean women. The information in this article is going to assume that you are indeed looking for a more substantial relationship rather than something that is short term. Dating Korean Girls Welcome to Korea.
You just arrived as a tourist, a new English teacher, a new exchange student or a factory worker. Your goal is not only to travel, work or study here, but also to live here and experience the culture.
Yellow Fever On the Rise – More White Guys Increasingly like Asian Girls The Mythical Asian Woman The Asian woman who is not a reality has stuck herself to the active imagination of many a young man.
If only white women felt the same way towards asian men…the I guess the chain goes, black men go after white women, white men go after asian women, asian men gets dominated by black women… Jenny Rietta August 15, at 7: I know a lot of BW who think AM are very cute. TrueBeautyInnerBeauty May 5, at 9: Why would you want someone who is totally submissive? I understand that not all Asian women are nice but hey, neither are all Americans or English. Heck, who cares about how they flipping AGE?
I know you say most men are marriage-minded underneath but they seem much less interested in getting into a stable, committed relationship than women do, and seem to drag their heels. Some of the things I hate about being single are in no particular order: Surely these things apply to men just as much as women? Your insights would be much appreciated. I particularly love your list of what sucks about being single.
Why Yellow Fever Is Different Than “Having a Type” with the expectations that I’ll carry out your preconceived notions about Asian women, then you have Yellow Fever. The Bold Italic is an online magazine that celebrates the character and free-wheeling spirit of San Francisco and the Bay Area.
Creepy old white guy with young Asian bride image. This image has to stop. While it is true there are old white, Western guys who take on younger brides from the less developed parts of China, Thailand, and the Philippines, this certainly is not the norm. Just spend some time at an American university and you will see a lot of young white guys holding hands with Japanese, Korean or Chinese girls.
The vast majority of white guy-Asian girl relationships are young couples in their 20s and 30s. Most of the Asian girls that go with American men are from ultra-modern, affluent, and developed parts of East Asia. So please stop categorizing every white guy who hooks up with an Asian women as some old, creepy dude. It is only a white guy-Asian girl thing. The idea that this is strictly a white guy-Asian girl thing is absurd and based in racism.
I am sorry to all you sisters out there, but the reality is that all Western men are attracted to Asian women.
Here’s What ‘Yellow Fever’ Really Means
Filmmaker Debbie Lum poses with Steven and Sandy, her documentary subjects, on their wedding day. And at first, it seems like it wasn’t so easy for Lum to document the phenomenon. She told me this guy had one of the “worst cases of yellow fever” she has seen. Steven, an earnest, bespectacled, white American man with an unsettling penchant for Asian females, is not exactly the most appealing of potential suitors.
I heard from Asian, Asian-American and many other women about their encounters with this so-called “yellow fever.” I even interviewed a Chinese woman who’s a yenta for men seeking Asian wives in.
My FitPort Originally published on Persephone and cross-posted here with their permission. I was IMing with a friend recently about a guy she has an unrequited crush on. She was absolutely smitten, but thoroughly convinced that he would have nothing to do with her. I am proud to be an Asian woman and to look the way that I do. My issue with being an Asian woman and trying to date has less to do with my perception of myself, and everything to do with the way I am treated and perceived by men, specifically non-Asian men.
Meeting new people in a romantic sense is difficult for anyone. And, for me, the experience has been made all the more difficult and uncomfortable by stereotypes about Asian women.
Yellow Fever: White Men and Asian Women
Origins[ edit ] A Western fetish for Asian things developed out of a European tradition of fascination with the East, and a history of othering the inhabitants of those regions. Middle Eastern women were fetishised during the 17th and 18th centuries, and after the First Opium War in the s and the opening of the Chinese treaty ports to foreign merchants, East Asia became the focus of Western interest.
Western powers, including the United States, established a presence in the port cities of China, Japan and Korea and made substantial profits from the lucrative trade routes.
White men like Asian women the most, even more than White women. “Yellow fever” is real. Most races had a preference for their own race, but White men now prefer Asian women over White women.
When I asked him if he sees any difference in approaching Japanese women or Western women, he answered: The difference is that you MUST approach them. And if a Japanese woman approaches you as a gaijin, just run as fast as you can! Be prepared for a lot of disappointment. A lot of disappointed male gaijin are just waiting for a chance with you! When approaching women, guys often are afraid of being embarrassed or publicly rejected. In Japan, that fear is greatly reduced.